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Meditation. It relaxes you, grounds you, and centers you… if you have the time to do it. I really have no idea how normal, everyday people have time in their daily lives to do anything besides the bare minimum. It’s crazy how the older you get, the more you crave time to yourself, and how little you actually allot to doing exactly what you want to do.
Speaking from personal experience, my days are jam packed from the moment I open my eyes until I go to sleep with things to do. Getting even five minutes to myself alone with my thoughts is near impossible and usually only accomplished in the bathroom. That being said, where I have no “me time”, I constantly feel stressed about not having enough down time. Finally, I had a moment in my life where I snapped and realized, even just taking five minutes was more helpful than not. I began a simple morning regiment that has me feeling more alert, well rested and less anxious throughout the day without taking a huge chunk of time out of my already cramped schedule. I call it my Morning Minimalist Meditation and it’s done in three easy steps, which make all the difference in the long run.
Just last week, I was having one of those random late night conversations with my boss and a coworker about religion. My boss is Roman Catholic and my coworker is Atheist, so I like to play the field by saying “I’m not religious, I’m spiritual”, which I know is a cop out, but is also truly how I feel. Well, we started to talk about an afterlife. My boss, who isn’t a regular church goer, mentioned to me about baptizing my 6 month old babies, to which the coworker laughed “ You don’t really believe in that do you?” Now, here’s where things got sticky. I was raised Roman Catholic, but as an adult, like many people I know, kind of realized that there were great things as well as shitty parts about religion. Sure, I’d love to be one of those people that just has blind faith and just believes, but I can’t simply do that. As my fiancé says, “ Make Science Great Again”! I can’t reconcile religion against scientific discoveries. However, I hadn’t thought about baptizing my babies because it hadn’t come up in conversation at home. Had my wonderful grandmother, a Presbyterian reverend, still been alive I would have had her baptize them as she had done to me, but now I had to make a choice for my children. What does an agnostic person do? What does any person do? How do we keep our souls clean in this day and age?
So it’s been 9 days since everyone set their intentions to adhere to whatever resolutions they’ve set for the new year. Perhaps like many people year after year, you start strong with a clear desire to make changes, but then life gets in the way. Of course life is challenging and full of distractions, but once the backslide starts, it’s very hard to overcome and get back to your pattern of improvement. Even worse, if you’re regularly missing the mark on your intended mission, anxiety and depression can sink in if you haven’t already completely given up. So how do you not only prevent but actively combat this familiar road that almost all of us have gone down the start of every new year?
This is going to be a deeply personal blog post, but I feel it’s necessary to explain all the factors involved for the pivot that Wildchild Society has made away from curated local social/cultural content and towards the journey to mental and physical health and wellness.
Veronica "Wildchild" and her sister Alyson are the writing duo behind Wildchild Society's blogs..