This is going to be a deeply personal blog post, but I feel it’s necessary to explain all the factors involved for the pivot that Wildchild Society has made away from curated local social/cultural content and towards the journey to mental and physical health and wellness.
Let me start by saying that 2017 was a whirlwind of life-changing, defining moments that made the year as difficult as it was rewarding. I lost my entire social circle for better and for worse, only to find myself and to realize that perhaps I should have moved on a long time ago. Another silver lining example was that despite the fact that my relationship with immediate family remained complicated at best, I became an aunt to two stunning and amazingly adept twin girls. Over the summer, I created and developed another business, Spectrum Wellness 360- a social and cultural awareness platform dedicated to helping LGBT- identifying women achieve stability through mental and physical health and wellness. Unfortunately, as the year came to a close, my own relationship hit a low point when aggression and conflict began to overshadow the love that my fiance and I had for one another- prompting me to step away and re-evaluate not only my entire life and the decisions I’ve made, but also forcing me to accept in hindsight that even in the fog of a toxic, chaotic environment (whether it’s your friends, your lifestyle, your family, or even your own mind that is the negative influence), you only just need to pause, STOP, ask yourself what is REALLY TRULY important to you, and let the rest go.
I was always the friend to whom people asked advice, and I like to think when it comes to others that I dole out respectable and practical advice that if taken, should clear up said problem. But when it came to myself, I could basically count on making the wrong decision, and usually intentionally with lots of thought, which is completely counterintuitive. I asked myself why and how could I be so destructive with my own life choices when I had so much potential and so much to lose. I realized that I was simply not motivated to genuinely make long-lasting positive changes because they involved discipline and the complete re-arranging of my lifestyle as I knew it. I just wasn’t ready. But what 2017 taught me is that there’s no time like the present, and that life is going to go on with or without us… essentially, “let go or be dragged”. By the end of 2017, my finances, my relationship, my social circle, my physical wellness regimen were all but completely broken down, and I vowed to remember how terrible that felt. I wanted to feel the pain of agony, knowing that had I just done even a fraction of the things I promised to do for myself in 2017, that things would have been different, been better. I decided that 2018 I wasn’t going to sugarcoat my laziness and procrastination. I was going work on every character flaw I had, and I was going to see my goals through. I was going to set realistic yet progressive personal goals, and I was going to hold myself as accountable as I hold everyone else around me.
Now that I had a plan in motion, I realized that my passions and my business must be a reflection of who I really am and aspire to be. It’s easy to lose sight of your true essence in the age of social media, where it’s possible to live a lie and be further consumed by it until there’s nothing left but an unhappy inauthentic shell of yourself. Miami can be a perpetuation of this facade. Until recently, I was a fixture in Miami nightlife, and while my network is both vast and eclectic, these days I find that I’m in my true element in a quiet space (usually at home alone), or in the company of peaceful like-minded individuals manifesting positivity surrounded by good food and good wine. I realized that while my original concept of Wildchild Society was fresh , unique, and meaningful, I felt like I could and should best utilize my personality, intelligence, and skill set to consciously do what I’ve been doing this whole time- to help people. The very first person I would help would be myself. “You can’t pour from an empty cup”, and so only when I felt like I was ready to heal others the way I had healed myself, would I officially change my company mission. Of course we are all a work in progress, but I feel that I am finally in a position to positively affect the lives of others, as I’ve always felt compelled to do.
Despite life blowing up a bit at the end of the year, I was able to close out 2017 on an optimistic and hopeful note. I’m moving forward with Spectrum Wellness 360, working through my relationship and ongoing family trauma through therapy, and for the first time I have a well-defined path to personal and professional wellbeing and health. My definition of success has shifted to mean a healthy and fulfilling place where people can feel whole and empowered through meaningful connection and a healthy balance of mental, emotional and physical application. I don’t pretend to have the answers, but I do invite those who are seeking a better way to live, to adult, or to just be a better version of themselves, to come here to my new site, as often as you need to. I hope there is something for everyone here in these pages that will provide the same spark in manifesting your hopes and dreams and aligning yourself for greatness.
Love & Light,
Veronica "Wildchild" and her sister Alyson are the writing duo behind Wildchild Society's blogs..